A saga of turning grief into inspiration

Sudipta Ananda | Published: 23:29, Jan 11,2017

 
 

Roksana Parvin

Roksana Parvin, a regular member of Bangladesh handball team, saw her team Ansar and VDP lost the final of the Women’s National Handball but upheld her fighting spirit after tragedy in her personal life.
Roksana’s husband Faruk Ahmed, former national player, died from jaundice nine months ago but she took the field amid the trauma in order to salvage her job and thus support her only child.
The huge loss left her in most uncertain situation but she took her favourite game as the savior.
‘After his [Faruk] demise I am living my life as like a dead person,’ said an emotional Roksana after their 27-9 loss against Bangladesh Jute Mills Corporation team on Wednesday at capital.
‘I lost all the interest to continue my playing career but to continue my livelihood I had to play again,’ said the right winger, who made important contribution to take her team in the final despite her traumatic mind-set currently.
Faruk, who died at the age of just 29, met Roksana in the very ground and the atmosphere compelled her to walk through the memory lane.
‘He proposed me and I agreed to marry him and we had a very happy conjugal life with our only son [Hasib Ahmed Swadhin].
‘After retiring from Handball, my husband joined a private company in Dhaka and we also started living here.’
But the jaundice struck them like a thunderbolt and within just a couple of months not only took the life of Faruk on April 10 but also left Roksana and her child in a dire economic state.
‘He suffered jaundice just two months before his death.
‘We spent over Tk seven to eight lakh, our whole amount of saving, but we failed to save him.’
Roksana had to leave Dhaka with her poor financial condition but like a true sports person she declined to bow down and decided to earn her livelihood through playing rather than seeking any financial support.
‘After his death we moved to Sofipur beside the Ansar Academy and I am leaving there with my son and my mother.
‘I am still capable to continue my livelihood and I have no intention to take any assistance from anyone until my capability.
‘I don’t want to live my life with anyone’s blessings and that is why I am continuing my battle of life.
‘I will continue my career as long as possible and my only challenge is to build up my son as a good human being,’ said Roksana, who first played for Bangladesh in the South Asian Youth Championship back in 2000.
But the lady, who has been showing so much grit and determination in and off the field, could not check her emotion and burst into tears when she recalled her son’s grief of missing his father.
‘My son will turn to three years next month and he asks me repeatedly where his father is. I have no answer to convince my child. I never thought that I had to accept such as life.’

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